Diffusing Potentially Violent Behavior
- Project calmness: Move and speak slowly, quietly, yet confidently.
- Be respectful.
- Be an empathetic listener, encourage the person to talk and listen carefully and patiently (this can be hard when a person is ranting). Focus your attention on the person.
- Sit close to the door, don't get right in front of the person, and maintain a relaxed posture.
- Acknowledge the person's feelings. Indicate that you see the person is upset. You can validate the feeling without condoning negative acts. (I understand you feel______, and it's not okay to _______).
- Form some bond/connection.
- Use delaying tactics to help the person calm down. (Offer a drink of water in a paper cup).
- Be reassuring and point out choices. Break problems into smaller, more manageable pieces.
- Call Campus Police if you feel threatened.
- Be cold, apathetic, condescending robotic (going strictly by the rules without human factor).
- Reject all of the person's demands from the start.
- Pose in challenging stances (hands on hips, crossing arms). Try to avoid physical contact, finger-pointing, staring, and/or invading the person's space.
- Make sudden movements that could be seen as threatening, remember to move and speak slowly.
- Challenge, threaten, belittle or dare the individual.
- Criticize or act impatiently toward the agitated individual.
- Attempt to bargain with a threatening individual.
- Make false statements or promises you can't keep.
- Downplay the seriousness of the situation.
- Try to focus on technical or complicated information when emotions are high.
- Take sides or agree with distortions.
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